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‘Touching Base’

It’s been a long time since I’ve posted here. Even longer since I’ve written anything for the site.

I’m not sure if that’s a negative or not. I’ve had a lot going on in my life over the two and a half years since my last blog post. Some of it has been unfortunate, but most of it has been very good indeed.

I see you…

Where should I start?

I had my heart broken pretty badly a couple of years ago. It had been a while since that happened and it was a painful revisitation to a state of which I am not overly fond, but it’s worth noting that while it was hard, I think I dealt with it better than I have other instances in the past. How much that counts for remains to be seen, I suppose.

I won’t go into the details. The broad strokes are that I fell in love, it wasn’t reciprocated, it ended. A tale as old as time, no doubt, and my situation is far, far from unique.

New love

However, a little while after that I fell in love again. It was a tricky situation to begin with and part of it was not dealt with elegantly by yours truly. I think things have settled down for the best, however.

Irrespective, in January of 2022 I entered into a relationship with my partner, Kitty. Being polyamorous I am also still in a relationship (of almost 20 years!) with my other partner, Han. The two get along very well. They’ve even convinced me to start hate-watching the Twilight series, something I never thought I’d do. As the song says, ‘The things we do for love.’

New project: Hedgerow RPG

Somewhere in all of this I’ve started writing a tabletop role-playing game (TTRPG) called Hedgerow. It’s coming along very well and is almost – almost – at the playtesting phase. You can read a little more about it on my Ko-fi page. It will eventually be ready for release, most likely via itch.io, but I’m still considering my options. We’ll see how long it takes.

Further to the above, I’m learning how to illustrate. Specifically, as I’m disabled and very, very poor, I can’t afford to commission an artist for the Hedgerow core rule book – so I’m going to do it myself. I used to make visual art all the time, so the process is as much relearning as of learning from scratch, and an interesting process it is, too. I may post art updates here. We’ll see.

And next?

I don’t know. The world is a strange place right now. There’s a lot of fear, misinformation and hatred… but there’s also a lot of good, love and potential.

Try to be kind to others, and try to be kind to yourself. That’s what I’m focusing on.

Changes & Challenges

I have several unfinished drafts of blog posts here on Ink-Stained Worlds that I will almost certainly never publish.

Most of them attempt to put into words my feelings regarding the death of my mother and the unusual relationship with grief that I seemed to have developed following her passing.  Alas, I am not as eloquent as I would like, so I will quickly sum up the core of it:

I have not cried for my mother, and I do not expect to, since she died.  I am not upset that she is dead – at all.  I miss her fiercely, and I wish that I could discuss many things with her as once I did, but seeing the literal agony in which she lived the final months of her life, I am grateful for her death, because it has given her peace.

Jennifer Thornby

Jennifer Thornby

Grief counselling has never been something I have gelled with, but in my mother’s case I simply don’t feel the need.  I have closure here – or, at least, as much closure as anyone could wish to have upon the death of their mother.  I said my goodbyes.  She knew that I love her.  She is no longer in pain – and those things, for me, are enough.  Grief is a very personal process and I had a quiet but intense friendship with my mother that grew and deepened in the years leading up to her passing.  I appreciate that time.  I do not wish for more, exactly, because I would not wish more life on her without being able to assure her quality of life, and that was denied to her by her condition.

To wish more life on her simply so that I could talk to her some more would be selfishness of the highest order.  I would wish death upon the worst of Humanity before wishing upon them the ordeal through whish my mother passed – and she was the best human being I have ever met.

This post, as I am so wont to say, isn’t about that.  It’s been bugging me that I haven’t written the above clearly and succinctly, and unlike the former posts (which I wrote with the mindset that I’d maybe put them out there, if I liked the way they turned out), I do fully intend to publish this one.

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Trapped in the Mirror

Sometimes I get lost in songs.

The cage I find myself in, at times like this, are made of sound – tiny notes meshed together and harder than steel, even if they can be broken by pressing the Pause button – but the stuff in the cage, filling the void between bars and sloshing in the empty space around my (metaphorical) flesh is raw emotion.

I have an unusual relationship with emotion.  Mind you, I have an unusual relationship with most things.  I’m fairly typical like that.

Let me explain what this feels like…

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Queermance Anthology vol 2 – Coming Soon!

Q2: Queermance Anthology, vol 2Earlier in the year I was fortunate enough to be able to submit a story to Q2, the Queermance Anthology (vol 2) by Clan Destine Press.

The good news: I was accepted!  My short story, Purple Forever, will be in the anthology.  As this is the first thing I’ll have had professionally published – and is the first thing I’ve submitted for professional publishing – I’m pretty excited.

The bad news: There isn’t any!  Well, there kind of is; I’m currently down with the flu, so I can’t attend the launch at the Hare Hole in Fitzroy, Friday 17th of April (ie. tomorrow).

Purple Forever is a short story of about 10,000 words that follows the story of Yvonne and Chrissy, a pair of women from Victoria, Australia who certainly know that the course of love never runs smoothly.

Clan Destine Press have collected a number of authors with varying experience, from well-known names to complete unknowns (such as myself).  It’s a humbling experience to be listed among them.

Q2 will be an excellent ebook.  My (admittedly biased but still quite sound) advice is to buy it, read it and then tell all your friends to do the same.

You can find Clan Destine Press at their website or on Facebook.  They also have a Twitter account, @clandestinepres, which you really should be following.

You can find details regarding Q2 on its product page.

RIP Sir Terry Pratchett

2015 is shaping up to be a heck of a year already.  It’s been a while since I blogged here.  Much has happened since the year started.  I was originally going to post several updates in the one but I’ve decided against doing that.  So I’ll be posting a couple of things one after t’other.

The Death of Sir Terry Pratchett

Sir Terry Pratchett, OBE

Sir Terry Pratchett, OBE

Sir Terry Pratchett passed away on the 12th of March, 2015.  Most people who had heard of him (and arguably everyone who loved his books) knew he was unwell; Sir Terry suffered from early onset Alzheimers, ultimately the cause of his death.

I met Sir Terry once.  I was a younger person than I am now, by far – I don’t recall the year – and he was visiting Australia on a tour.  I sat there while he told us of his experiences in life, his enjoyment of writing and of reading, and I was struck by his voice.  It was a surprisingly young voice, I felt, and not the Received Pronunciation accent that I had (for reasons I’m unclear of) expected.  Sir Terry had a surprisingly light voice, an accessible tone that made him immediately likeable and no lack of amusing anecdotes to please the audience with.

When it came time for questions I stood up and asked him when we might see Eskarina Smith again, as she was my favourite character.  I can’t recall my exact wording but I do know that I was too nervous to ask elegantly.  He chuckled, perhaps recognising my nervousness, and said that she might turn up.  Certainly, he added, there must be fans out there who could calculate her exact age in the Discworld universe, given how much time must have passed.

Eskarina Smith did turn up again, years later.  I wonder if he remembered me asking that question.  Probably not.  I’ll never know, either way.

I got several books (including two maps, The Streets of Ankh-Morpork and The Discworld Mapp) signed.  It was a good day.

Something strange happens when a person passes out of normalcy and becomes a living legend.  It’s a subtle change, one that happens every day.  Most people idolise their parents, typically without even noticing that they’re doing it.  Fans ascribe incredible influence to their chosen stars.

One of the things that happens is the illusion of permanency.  Most people, as I said, knew Sir Terry was unwell – but how many of us really understood that he was going to die?  Intellectually the concept of mortality is easy to grasp: ‘People die.’  That’s it.  Factual, clinical, accurate.  Emotionally understanding that is an entirely different matter.

One day I went to bed.  The creator of the Discworld was still alive.  Then I woke up and he was gone forever.

Sir Terry Pratchett was a master storyteller.  He was a master of satire.  He was capable of taking something old and familiar, reshaping it just enough that it becomes new and fresh, then presenting it in a way that can never be forgotten.  Much like someone sewing a jumper out of used socks.  His use of language was exemplary and his vision as remarkable, to say the least.

He was also, as Neil Gaiman pointed out, a very angry man.

Sir Terry Pratchett passed away in a Wiltshire town called Broad Chalke, which is perhaps as Pratchetty a town name as one could hope for.

NaNoWriMo 2014: The Aftermath

NaNoWriMo 2014: completed.

Verdict: I lost.

There are many reasons this happened, of course, and lots of excuses I could give – many of them relevant and valid.  but in the end it still comes down to one thing: I lost.  The real reason for losing is simple.

I didn’t keep writing.

But I did reach half the goal and I did finish up with a strong beginning of a novel that might, one day, be worth reading – and that’s more than I had before NaNo started.

Read on for more about why I failed and, much more importantly, what I’ve learned.

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NaNoWriMo 2013: After-Thoughts

book001The month has come and gone with surprising speed.  To be fair, though, that’s the nature of time.

As you’ll know if you read my previous post on the matter I’m a big fan of the (inter)National Novel Writing Month.  It’s a hard slog at times and serves to illustrate exactly how much life can get in the way of writing but it’s almost always a rewarding experience.  The benefits definitely, in my opinion, outweigh the disadvantages.

I can’t quite remember when I determined to go through with NaNoWriMo this year but I did, a fact that I’m glad of.

Here are my thoughts on this year’s effort.

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Musings: The Ballad That Is Amanda Palmer

I’m coming to terms, little by little, that a blogger (bloggist? bloggerator? bloggoid? blogsbody?) is not what I am by nature.

It’s my nature to write long, rambling posts on matters that are, for the overwhelmingly larger part, of interest only to me.  I’m not that way out of selfishness, it’s just how it turns out.

And so, most of the time, I don’t do it.  I play a guilt-game with myself about it, upset that I can’t think of anything to write that people might find worth reading, wishing to write about some topic that I’ve made into my latest obsession (oh yes, I’m one of those types, the sort that have a hundred half-finished projects lying around the house).  I tell myself that it’s not worth putting words on the screen, that people will be angry, that people will be bored.  Feedback from my stories and poems has been surprisingly good; feedback on my blog posts is almost non-existent.

But you know what?

Fuck that.

I don’t use that term lightly, and not just because my mother sometimes reads this stuff (though, I’ll be honest, that is one of the reasons).  I’m using it now for a couple of reasons: firstly, because there’s a certain level of conviction that is most easily portrayed with profanity; and secondly because of Amanda Palmer.

Amanda Palmer performing in Auckland, 2006

Amanda Palmer performing in Auckland, 2006

I’ll explain.

For those of you who aren’t aware, Amanda Palmer is a singer, songwriter, performer, activist, feminist, visionary, ex human statue and downright inspirational person.  I became aware of her existence through the wonderfully quirky, charming and heartbreaking song, Coin-Operated Boy, performed during her days as half of the ‘Brechtian punk cabaret’ duo, the Dresden Dolls.  Her quirky style, open heart, sense of humour and incredible drummer (Brian Viglione, yeah, the same one from the Violent Femmes) caught my attention immediately.  The robust song about heartbreak, loss and disappointment tugged at my art-strings.


I should point out that I don’t listen to a lot of music.  I catch the songs that drift by me and consume them avidly but I don’t go out of my way to hunt them down.  I’m a music scavenger, not a music predator.  So when I find something that really makes me sit up and go ‘Wow,’ I don’t take it lightly.

I don’t own any of Ms Palmer’s albums.  I catch what I can in passing and, in a strange way that may not make sense, I feel them to be all the more special for that.  They drift in and out of my life, challenging me at particular times, like bra-clad leaves wielding ukeleles.

I follow Ms Palmer’s Tumblr account and find her words, her courage, her strength to be inspiring.  She was given a crochet doll of herself recently, along with one of her husband Neil Gaiman, and in her typically rich sense of humour she almost immediately began posting photos of them in interesting positions – talking, sitting with their heads in each others’ laps, arguing, sleeping, making love (despite the Neil Gaiman doll’s clothes not being removable), and so on.

And then, scrolling down…

There’s one of them in which the Amanda doll is sitting on a window ledge.  The window is closed.  The Neil doll is on the inside, looking out, and the caption reads: NO AMANDA DON’T DO IT!  YOU HAVE SO MUCH TO LIVE FOR.


It’s heartbreaking, it’s real, it’s challenging and it’s intimate.  And that, ladies and gentlemen, is Amanda Palmer.  She will make you gasp and cheer, cry and curse, process and reassess.  She will stand before you in a kimono or a bra, a ‘FUCK TONY ABBOTT’ t-shirt or an ornate dress – or she will stand before you naked, clad only in music and sincerity.

But she will always – always – be Amanda Palmer.

She is bold and raw before you, she who stands proud in her armour of Self.

This blog post does have a point, though, and I’m getting to it.  I did say I ramble.

You’ll possibly have heard of the (extremely) recent clashes betwixt Irish-born singer Sinead O’Connor and the increasingly infamous Miley Cyrus.  If you haven’t, the summary is this as follows.

Miley Cyrus is the daughter of Billy Ray Cyrus (the Achy Breaky Heart guy) and you may well know her as Hannah Montana.  Well, Miley has grown up and is now performing her own work the way she wants to perform it, something that’s got a lot of people somewhat perturbed.  Relatively recently she started displaying a tendency to stick her tongue out a lot and she’s experimenting with nudity in her film clips.  Most notably, though, was her performance at the MTV Awards.  It involved twerking, teddy bears, foam fingers and the aptly-named Robin Thicke – the point is a lot of people found it tasteless (at best).

I, for the record, think that if people are going to shake their heads in shock at a young woman sticking her tongue out and implying she has a sexuality and completely ignore the white dude behind her perpetuating rape culture with a horrid little song about ignoring consent (it’s called Blurred Lines, if you’re wondering; look it up on YouTube because I’m not going to contaminate my blog with its nonsense) then there’s something seriously wrong with society.

Miley Cyrus

Was the performance tasteful?  Probably not.  Some people are stating the performance was racist because there were black people in it dressed up as animals – and yes, I can see how that could be an issue, though I doubt it was anyone’s intention to be racist (from what I could see almost the entirety of the cast was black, Ms Cyrus and Idiot Thicke being the only notable exceptions).  Looking at a few of her other clips it seems pretty clear Ms Cyrus is attempting to portray herself as being, if you like, a bit of a ‘wigga’ (a term I don’t personally like at all).  She’s In With The Rap Crowd and yes, that area of music is dominated by African-Americans (and no, I don’t think that’s necessarily a problem).  She’s not the first white woman to do so and she won’t be the last, not by a long shot.

But the majority of the classist, misogynistic backlash from it seems based mostly around the Western world’s horror that a young woman attempting to break out of a childhood role and into her own art-space has had the audacity to proclaim her sexual energy and use shock tactics to get people’s attention.  Something that white male American radio shock-jockeys do verbally every day is somehow devastatingly horrid coming from Ms Cyrus.  Doesn’t that seem a little stilted?

She’s a young woman attempting to reinvent herself from a past in which she’s been shaped purposefully into, well, Hannah Montana.  If she seems like she’s going too far in breaking out of that role maybe, just maybe, she has a point.  So while her work isn’t to my tastes I can still see what she’s doing with her art and guess at why.

Sinead O’Connor

One of the people dismayed at her recent work, as mentioned before, is Ms O’Connor.  She penned an open letter to Ms Cyrus and that opened up a hell of a mess.

Whether Ms O’Connor’s letter was valid or not (and I believe it was both valid and missed several points) there’s no denying that Ms Cyrus’s reaction was out of taste and extreme.  She immediately began to mock Ms O’Connor over Twitter (and Amanda Bynes, for some reason), implying mental instability and so forth.  Ms O’Connor’s reaction to this was not as graceful nor as peaceful as her opening letter was, undoubtedly, intended to be.

Let me repeat that, in order to be clear: Sinead O’Connor started this.  Ms Cyrus may have brought the media to Ms O’Connor’s door by citing her as an inspiration but it was Ms O’Connor herself that started the (open) correspondence between them.  She did so with, I don’t doubt, the best of intentions.  She also implied that Miley Cyrus is being manipulated into behaving ‘like a prostitute’ and either completely missed or intentionally ignored the possibility that the image Ms Cyrus is portraying might be absolutely intentional on her behalf (does that make her choices good?  No, not necessarily, but it does make them hers).  Ms Cyrus reacted like a petulant teenager who’s been slapped on the wrist (sorry, but it’s true, her Twitter escapades were out of line, she could have handled the matter much more maturely and she chose not to).  Things escalated.  Offensive slights about mental illness were made (by Ms Cyrus).  Insulting comparisons were made (by both parties).  Legal threats were made (by Ms O’Connor).

I don’t want people to misinterpret my opinion on this (not that my opinion is particularly important, but it is mine): I’m not condoning Ms Cyrus’s actions in responding to Ms O’Connor’s well-intentioned letter.  Making fun of people with mental illnesses is never, ever okay (and being a person with a neurological disorder and a mental illness I am particularly sensitive to such matters).  It was heartless, cruel and low.  There’s a lot of backlash about that – some people are calling Ms Cyrus extremely unpleasant names over this – and I feel that she’s simply going to have to wear that.  She should definitely offer a full and public apology.  The world doesn’t need a second Justin Bieber.  I also feel that whether it was well-intentioned or not Ms O’Connor’s initial open letter was, in fact, somewhat patronising.  Again, I applaud her sense of concern, but I doubt Ms O’Connor’s belief that Ms Cyrus is being pushed into anything she doesn’t want to be.  She strikes me as the sort of woman who’d more than happily push right back.  So yes, I think she was patronising Ms Cyrus.  I think her heart was in the right place but her perceptions of the situation were (and probably continue to be) somewhat off.

In fact, the whole thing strikes me very much as a protective mother and a rebellious daughter.

Amanda Palmer, Melbourne, 2013

Amanda Palmer, meanwhile, crafted a letter to Ms O’Connor.  You can read it on her website here.

This is something I want everyone who reads this long-winded blog post to understand.  There’s a reason why I freaking adore Ms Palmer so much, a reason why she’s just as much an inspiration to me as her husband (though in a different way) and there’s a damn good reason why we need more people in the world like her.

There’s also a damn good reason why this blog post isn’t actually about Ms Cyrus or Ms O’Connor.  It’s about Ms Palmer.  The mess that’s unfolded over the last couple of days has simply pushed to the fore why, especially at times like these, we need more people like Amanda Palmer in the world.

At the core of everything, under the music and the make-up, the kimono and the bra, even under the flesh and the bones, Ms Palmer wants something very simple.

She wants people to be allowed and to be encouraged to be proud of themselves.

There are no words to describe how much that means to me, how precious it is.  She’s a golden heart wrapped in skin.  She’s made mistakes, she’s fought tooth and nail through a male-dominated industry, she’s battled record labels for her right to be herself, she’s battled depression (and no doubt still does; depression is a clingy bastard that won’t stop calling and leaving creepy messages).  She could be incredibly jaded, bitter, immutably and incurably cynical about the world – but she’s not.  She has hope, dreams and laughter aplenty for the world to enjoy.  While Ms O’Connor and Ms Cyrus were taking pot-shots at one another she was enjoying the company of young girls interested in music, looking and knowing the future was unfolding right before her eyes – and that the future is full of hope.

If she can look at the world with such wonder why can’t we all?

I am, as you’ve no doubt gathered, not female.  Nor am I a singer.  I barely even really consider myself an artist; I’m more some dude with a keyboard, a blog and a head full of doubts.  Ms Palmer doesn’t know me; very likely she never will.  Like most of my inspirations she’s a distant figure that my admiring mind irrationally thinks can accomplish miracles, a person who seems so alien and familiar to me at once, and who wouldn’t know me from anyone else should she see me on the street.  But that’s all right.  She’s in the world and that’s a valuable, important thing.

Back to the point, despite not being a female singer artist her open letter struck a deep chord within me.  This is an important lesson for anyone interested in any kind of self-expression.  Y’all should read Ms Palmer’s letter for the simple, elegant concept of an artist’s uniform.

It’s not just about clothes, of course, it’s about style, direction, intent, drive, passion.  Like many writers I spend a lot more time worrying whether my works will seem too similar to one or another of my muses.  I worry about whether my work is original enough and yet familiar enough.  Different enough but not too different.  I concern myself over which genre to work in (or whether to work in several), whether my style suits one more than another, which demographic to aim for so that I’m not just swinging wildly in the dark hoping to make some kind of connection.

And you know what?  It’s okay for writers to try on their own uniform, to change it now and then, to experiment and to play.  It’s okay for us to give ourselves permission to do that.  It’s okay for fine artists to go through a dozen mediums until they find the one that works (sculpting with plasticine?  Awesome!  Oil painting with your fingers?  Great!).  We don’t need to commit our lives to just one thing and we’re not failures if we find, halfway through something, that it really isn’t Us.  We are permitted to learn about ourselves.  We’re allowed to allow ourselves that and if it makes us better as artists, better as people, then there’s no shame in going, ‘Well, raffia didn’t work, guess I’ll give all this stuff away to the local school’s art department.’  It’s okay if my poems mimic English nursery rhymes, my stories are trite and my blog posts are boring.  And it’s okay if they’re none of those things.

That’s my TIL.  That’s the lesson I took from this fracas about women proclaiming each other to be acting like prostitutes, or to be crazy, or this or that.  One woman, in the middle of it, seeing both sides and calling for mutual support rather than mutual criticism.  One woman saying, ‘It’s okay to learn who you are.’

I feel deeply humbled and immensely privileged to be a part of a world in which the ballad that is Amanda Palmer continues to unfold.

— Scott Thornby, 4th of October, 2013

A short note about titles…

You’ll note throughout this blog post, and perhaps others that I’ve written, that I tend toward the formal ‘Ms’ more often than I use people’s first names.  This is meant as a mark of respect.  It’s a legacy of how I was brought up; I don’t tend to use people’s first names unless I’ve been introduced to them with only a first name, I know them reasonably well or they’ve explicitly given me permission to use their first name (or a nickname).  My apologies if it seems archaic or awkward.

As an aside you’ll notice I don’t afford Robin Thicke the same courtesy.  Yes, you can guess why.

Writing Exercise: The Rambler

book001Hello, folks!  It’s been a while since I posted.  I’ve been working on a few things.

One of the things I’ve been working on is refining my writing and working on ways to get past writer’s block.  Almost every writer get writer’s block and so I’ve decided to put up some writing exercises that I’ve been using.  If they’re popular enough I might continue to put more up so if you like this make sure to click the ‘Like’ button down the bottom of the page.

This writing exercise is called The Rambler.

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